bouncy bouncy...hop hop hop on to the next bed you go!

With my last bulletin I thought I would continue my rant about bed hopping madness in the UK. Now, I might not be the right person to be talking about such a thing as I am solidly a one man kinda gal and very committed to my blokey. But I seem to be in a complete fog as to why this is happening so much?!
In the past I found myself in many situations where a one night stand could of presented itself.. but i never went for it! For me its actually a massive turn off if a guy is only interested in getting into my pants, and with my experience I can now smell a mile off if this is the case! (I used to be a little naive!) I know the end result of any relationship is the sex.. But what I love is the leading up to it. Where you get to know each other, really discover each other as people and you build a emotional bond, and when you feel like this person is pretty dam special its then that the first time sex can be incredible! Like I experienced with my current boyfriend, It taught us both what sex is really all about, and it can be truly mind blowing. Why would anyone choose anything other than this?
I guess we all think differently, and no one wants or feels the same thing. I have friends who have one night stands, and they have a truly fantastic time. But they are very in dependant people, and for them a relationship just isn't on the cards or what they may be looking for, as their priorities lie in other places. So naturally they need to get their kicks somehow, but they have their heads screwed on, they know what they are doing, and they are being safe and sensible with it. But what I don't understand is the people who get themselves into situations just to brag about it, or they are too drunk to even know what they are doing. You know the kind I mean, the young ladies of today who can barely walk out of a pub, half bent over crawling up the walls and screaming random obscenities that make no sense, and usually with shoes falling off, make up smudged all over their faces and complete verbal diarrhea! So many weekend party girls are just out to get what they can. I have known a few in my time, and its not pretty! The guys they sleep with aren't even proud of who they spent the night with, it will just be a brag of a anonymous shag. Alot of women I have known who do this are really not happy about it...so why do it? Is it some kind of a attention thing? insecurities get the better of most of us, but why make it worse? isn't a compliment good enough? Do we really need to have a total stranger inside of us before we feel like we are good enough? And where is it all coming from?
With all the media focusing on what is supposedly beautiful, I feel like the pressure is really on! In every magazine you look and all the TV soaps etc all you see is women who look, well, a bit like sluts. And this is what is now considered beautiful! I have also over heard many conversations where men rant about how they think a woman should look when it comes to their private regions... I mean really, what the hell is it all coming to! So with all these pressures on us I wonder if women go out to basically get a fix of confidence. After all, if a guy thinks your good enough to sleep with, you must have all the right things in the right places and be putting yourself together pretty well! But does this really mean you are the total embodiment of true beauty if you are getting laid? In my opinion, I think not! If you can hold a mans attention for longer than just one night... well then, then you really have it going on! If you are really interested in a guy, I would never advice sleeping with them on a first date. Men and women are naturally built very differently... and if the offer is presented to a man, its not that easy for them to resist, and to find a man who does is truly a rare thing! Its just the way it is. If a man pesters you for sex on the first night.. they aren't really worth talking to for a second longer, because to be honest with you, after the night is over you wont be seeing him again! And if not having sex the first night is in any way a problem, you can seriously kick them to the curb! If a guy has manners and respect, then get to know them first. Guys tend to lose interest pretty much instantly after having sex with you when you have only just met them! I don't know what it is, or why it works like that, but that's just how it goes! I just want to shout STOP IT JUST STOP IT, WHAT ARE YOU DOING! To all these women who just cant stop themselves jumping from one guy to the next, because most of them ,when being honest about it, feel dirty and used!
Building confidence is key, and learning to truly respect yourself. Respecting yourself doesn't come in the form of knowing some one else thinks your hot, It can only come from you and knowing what you are worth.. and that's to be treated like your worth alot more than just something to use as a human wank machine for one night! Also, the other thing to seriously think about is the amount of diseases that go around. Its spreading like wild fire. One in five people have chlamydia in the UK under the age of 25... I think that is truly sickening, if it doesn't give you the heebyu jeebys...I really don't know what will! Its easy to say you have been tested... but i wouldn't just go on some ones word! We all need to take STD's a hell of a lot more seriously because it is a sick thing that will only make you feel disgusted if you find you have caught one through having sex with a stranger, and chlamydia is one of the lesser dangerous diseases going round, although left untreated it can make you infertile. There are some seriously awful std's that are growing quickly like chlamydia.. so watch out! Yes, trust me, I know condoms are really a bit rubbish, but the pill isn't going to protect you from getting very ill with a STD! Either stop sleeping around like your life depends on it, or for god sake put some thing on it! The amount of STD's going around are so extreme that there are even some you can catch from toilet seats, although this kind is rare, its still pretty serious how twisted this whole thing is getting, so wake up people!